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[00:00:00] Welcome friends to [00:01:00] this episode of The Sink Your Life Podcast. If you’re listening to this in the middle of a busy holiday season between shopping lists and travel, or just trying to get through the end of the year, I’m really glad you’re here. We’re talking today about presence over presence. It’s all about choosing what truly matters during the holidays about mindfulness, when everything feels loud and fast, and about how we gently step into a new year with intention rather than pressure.

This is also our last episode of the year, which makes it especially meaningful to record. So wherever you are right now, if you’re driving, going on a walk, sitting on the couch, take one slow breath with me. Just one.

Okay, here we go. The holidays are often painted as joyful, magical, and full of connection, and sometimes they are, but they can also be overwhelming, emotional, exhausting, or even lonely. There’s this unspoken pressure to make everything perfect, the perfect gifts, the perfect meals, the perfect memories, [00:02:00] and yet so often we end the season feeling depleted rather than fulfilled.

That’s why I wanna talk about being present over presence, because years from now, we won’t remember every gift that we gave or received, but we will remember how we felt. We’ll, remember conversations, laughter, quiet moments. This year, the holidays feel different for me. I lost my dad in October very suddenly.

And grief has a way of changing how you see everything, especially time and what actually matters. There’s a clarity that comes with loss, a reminder that life is fragile, that moments aren’t guaranteed, that the people we love, that’s the real gift. Some days the holidays bring comfort. Other days they bring waves of sadness.

And if you’re grieving this season, whether it’s a person or a relationship. A version of yourself or a year that just didn’t turn out how you hoped. I want you to know you’re not alone. Mindfulness doesn’t mean pretending that everything is okay. [00:03:00] It means allowing what is to be here without judgment. So let’s talk about what presence actually looks like during the holidays.

Presence isn’t doing more. It’s not creating the perfect experience. Presence is pausing before reacting. It’s listening instead of waiting to speak. It’s noticing when your mind drifts to what’s next and gently bringing it back to now. Presence can be sitting with someone that you love and putting your phone down.

It can be taking a breath before walking into a family gathering. It can be letting yourself feel joy without guilt or sadness, or without rushing to fix it. Sometimes presence is simply saying, this moment is enough. One of the biggest traps during the season is comparison. Comparing your holidays to what you see online, comparing your energy to who you used to be comparing this year to years before, but comparison pulls us out of presence.

This [00:04:00] year doesn’t need to look like any other year. You don’t need to force traditions that no longer fit. You’re allowed to create space for what feels true now. That in itself is mindfulness. As we begin to approach the new year, there’s often pressure to immediately improve ourselves. New goals, new habits, new versions of who we think we should be.

But what if this year, instead of rushing to become something new, we focused on being more present? Being versus becoming Before, setting intentions for the future, it’s important to honor where you are right now. Ask yourself, what did this year teach me? What am I ready to release? What do I want to protect more of in my life?

You don’t need all the answers today. You just need honesty. If you’re listening to this near the end of the year, I invite you to try something simple at least once a day. Pause and name one thing that you’re grateful for in that exact moment. Not from the past, not from the future, but right now. [00:05:00] It might be warmth, it might be a deep breath, a memory, a person, or just a quiet moment alone.

Gratitude doesn’t erase grief, but it creates space for both to coexist. Losing. My dad reminded me that time is the most precious thing we have. We can’t wrap it. We can’t buy it. We can’t save it for later. All we can do is show up for it. So this holiday season, if you’re feeling stretched thin, so encourage you to give yourself permission to choose presence.

Presence with your loved ones, presence with yourself, presence with your emotions, whatever they might be. That is the gift that lasts. As we close out this year together, I wanna say thank you for being part of the Sink Your Life community. Thank you for listening, for growing, for reflecting, for showing up for yourself in ways that matter, wherever you are on your journey.

I hope you move into the new Year, feeling grounded, supported, and connected both to yourself and to what truly matters. Take another deep breath with me one more time.[00:06:00]

And remember, you don’t need to do more to be worthy of a meaningful life. You just need to be here. Happy holidays my friends. I’ll see you in the new Year. Until next time, talk soon. Okay.